He doesn’t want to be viewed as a “token” or “fetish.” While he doesn’t speak for all trans people, Harrison says there are common insights. I’m sure that was tied to my confidence,” he says.Īs an out trans man, Harrison says he hopes people are open-minded if they want to have a sexual relationship with him. I would let people take advantage of me ― not in good ways. I had just moved to Atlanta and had been casually seeing a few people more on the queer and lesbian spectrum,” she says.įor Harrison, who medically transitioned May 8, 2006, dating as a trans man is easier because he is comfortable with himself. “I had learned years ago when I was living in Washington, D.C., that there was a huge transgender community in the subculture of GLBQ communities and I have dated other trans guys in the past.
Hubshman says she didn’t know Harrison was trans when they met but had dated trans men in the past. Even the Huffington Post hosted a live web talk with gay men who date trans men on Jan. Hubschman, 35, and Harrison, 37, are an example of an issue gaining more traction and interest in the LGB world ― dating and having sex with transgender people. That is not to say we are promiscuous at all, really we are rather picky,” Hubshman says. “While we fill 98 percent of what we both need, we leave the options open for others to hold space emotionally and sexually. We don’t keep secrets and enjoy being with each other.”īut they also realize they are not going to be able to be “everything” for each other in a partnership. “When we say open, we also mean in communication. “We both agree that commitment and monogamy are not one in the same,” Harrison says. The couple is also non-monogamous and define their marriage as an open relationship. Then they made out and talked for hours.Īfter that, they continued to date and were legally married last year. I know exactly what to do with boys like you,” she says she told him. “I said, ‘Well, girls like you don’t normally like boys like me,’” Harrison says. “But they usually don’t buy me drinks and remember what I was wearing the first time we met,” she says. And Hubschman told him she is attracted to gay men. Harrison told her he was attracted to her. So they shared a few drinks on the back deck of the gay East Atlanta bar and Hubschman asked him, “What do you want from me?” It made me a little shy and interested at the same time,” Hubschman says. “He recognized me from the time before and did in fact mention that I was wearing skinny black suspenders at Friends that night we met. The two met again a few weeks later at Mary’s and Harrison offered to buy her a shot.
I remember she had suspenders on,” Harrison says. I thought he was really cute for a gay man,” Hubschman recalls. “I had just gotten out of a long-term relationship and was having a bad week. Jackie Hubschman and Oyle Harrison met in 2010 through mutual friends while hanging out at Friends on Ponce during its Speakeasy Sunday.